So why did I like being a stay at home dad…easy…it beats working! Ha. Okay, actually being a stay at home dad was work but not as hard as what I hear from other stay at home moms.
The hours of a stay at home dad is longer than when you work but they are not consecutive working hours. You have gaps during the day when you have down time, like when Jack is in school or napping. Also being a stay at home dad is like owning your company, the hours are longer and you might work harder but you do it because it is for your job/family.
I guess I like a schedule so I just scheduled out chores that I need to do each day of the week. I have to prep and cook at certain times as well so once you have the schedule it gets easy.
It is nice to go to all of Jack’s activities. Quite often I am the only dad there. I don’t mind either because I don’t really talk to a lot people. I see a lot of moms go and just sit there and talk to each other like it there social hour and not even watch their kids.
Did I miss the social interactions of other adults? Nope. I was perfectly fine by myself. If I had to talk I could talk to the security guard, mail man, dry cleaner, grocery store checker, teacher, etc.
I think being a stay at home dad made it easier for Aya and I as well. We didn’t talk about chores or who would get the kids. All that stuff was done. Aya just had to work and I would do the rest. Now I never really thought I would be a stay at home dad and I never wanted a stay at home wife but I think the family dynamic was better when one parent is home. Assuming one parent makes a lot less I think the trade off for staying home is great. For Aya and I, it is hard to leave money on the table and not work.
With all the good things there are bad things. It was always hard to say that I don’t work. I dunno why, but it just kills me to say that I don’t work. I also think Aya isn’t a big fan to say her husband doesn’t work either. I dunno if it is good or bad but I think I got even CHEAPER when I didn’t work. I would still buy stuff for the kids but I just didn’t buy anything for myself anymore.
For you Buffy fans out there that saw the tv show, do you remember the musical episode where Buffy sings, “I think I was in heaven…Yes I was in Heaven…” Yeah that is sort of what it was like for me….and now I am back to the grind just like everyone else. Say goodbye to nice Miles because I am sure grouchy Miles will be back soon!